There have been times I’ve heard the phrases, “you’re on dad duty,” or, “are you babysitting while your wife is working?” Though these comments I’m sure are not ill-intended they still rub me wrong. When I am alone with my son, I’m just simply being a father. It is dangerous to think otherwise because being a father is a God-given gift and something we must steward very wisely.
Over the past two weeks I have been at home with my son while my wife has been working. It has been a total role-reversal and extremly eyeopening. I have been exhausted at the end of every day from trying to keep up with my almost two year old. He never runs low on energy and is always ready to jump, play guitar, play drums, run, go outside, and the list could go on. All this is in the job description as a dad, but there is so much more I am called to. So many questions inundate my mind as I am spending time with my little boy –
Who will this little guy grow up to be? How can I best teach him about Jesus and God’s love for him? How can I teach him boundaries but not overprotect him?
You see, the last thing I want to do is raise a son that wants nothing to do with Jesus and Church. I don’t want to raise a son that is scared of everything and lacks the gumption to take on life’s hard trials. Every day as a father I get the unique and humbling opportunity to teach my son little lessons that will help shape who he will become. I pray every day that the Holy Spirit would continuously teach me and guide me through His word how to be a better husband and father.
So, no I’m not just babysitting my son or just watching him. I’m afforded an amazing, prodigious opportunity to help raise my son and I wouldn’t trade it for the world. The last two weeks have caused me to be even more appreciative and thankful for what my wife has done for 90% of Nate’s life. She has been with him all day everyday for 22 months now. I tell her almost everyday, “I don’t know how you do it.” God has given me such an amazing woman who is an incredible mother to this little guy. I am one lucky dude.