How awkward is it when you’re minding you’re own business when, all of a sudden, your boss walks in and starts chewing your co-worker out…in front of you?!? It’s like that daddy-hit-mommy moment at the dinner table. Luckily I never experienced that, but nevertheless I compare the two.
Leaders, you do not have to call out/embarrass your employees or co-workers by using them as a punching bag in front of other employees. I can promise you, it does not cause them to respect you more. It actually has the opposite effect.
Just think of how much better your people would work if you treated them with respect? Taking them into another room and with compassionate sternness (may have made that one up) telling them how they can improve as a team member. This will go much further than yelling at them in front of other employees.
Even though the person receiving the reprimand may be a little frazzled, they will respect the fact you had the decency to take them aside instead of confronting them in front of their peers.
Have you ever been in this situation before? How do you think it should be handled?
Sometimes it is very easy to get caught up in playing the right notes, singing the right lyrics (this is a big one) and being on key that we can lose sight of what we should really be doing: leading passionately.
A good friend of mine use to tell me to always lead passionately and boldly–owning the stage. God has put us in a place of leadership (worship leading) for a purpose. I can guarantee that God wants us to always be passionate about Him. When we are passionate about who Jesus is, that transcends to the congregation we are leading and in turn causes them to become more passionate about what we are singing about– JESUS.
So, short and sweet: let’s lead passionately this week! It does not matter whether you are singing, playing, teaching, running lights, running camera (and I could go on and on) – You can lead. Be bold, own the position you are in and rest in the fact that God has you there for a purpose. Let’s lead out of passion for who Jesus is together this week!
Be on guard. Stand firm in the faith. Be courageous. Be strong. (1 Corinthians 16:13)
This weekend will be the first Sunday where I have zero responsibility in a church service in over 7 years! It is a very weird feeling to say the least. I have caught myself throughout this week checking Planning Center to listen to songs I need to learn for this week and realizing I don’t have any…
Courtney and I are really looking forward to getting up together, eating breakfast together, and going to church together. We have not done this since we’ve been married… unless we were on vacation. Even still I hardly slept on Saturday nights because I would be thinking through all the transitions of the church service I had planned and trying to make sure I didn’t forget anything. I constantly would text the person filling in for me while I was gone and all the musicians to be sure everything went off well. It is really amazing how stressful being a worship pastor is/was.
I am still playing here and there in the coming months at a couple different locations, but for the most part I am taking a much needed break. The best part about where I am leading in the coming weeks is that all I do is show up..(and rehearse of course!) someone else is putting the sets together and worrying about all that stuff (thanks Andrew and Tim)! I can focus solely on my heart and mind being right and focused on Jesus and His glory.
I have also found myself really wanting to play my guitar like crazy this week, but unfortunately by the time I get home I just want to chill on the couch with our pup. This time is helping me realize how much I love playing music and how much I took that for granted. I traveled so much last year with my band and I was so focused on getting the business side straightened out all the time that I lost focus of the reason behind the music. It was easy too fall back into once we hit the first note, but it was all the in-between times that got to me. I am looking forward to not having to rely on playing every Wednesday and Sunday to make a living for a while. I am looking forward to missing it.
I am so thankful for having the opportunity to plug in at local churches in the coming months. I am also thankful to have a new church home where it doesn’t matter if I never played guitar or sang a note. It takes a weight off that you wouldn’t believe. I am thankful for the years I have had on church staffs, but at the same time I am looking forward to not knowing all the “behind the scenes” details so that I can always so “I don’t know.” I haven’t been able to say that since I was 16!
Hope everyone has a good weekend… more posts coming next week (I am trying to actually be consistent with my “blogging”)